A study by Age UK recently revealed that older age results in the decline of some cognitive functions within the brain. Unfortunately, these functions are commonly linked to memory loss and the inability to reason rationally.

It’s one of the reasons why people with dementia can sometimes be so uncooperative in their behavior. When mixed with a general stubbornness, this can make life extremely difficult for a caregiver or family member.

Robin Henoch, the owner of the in-home care provider, Always Best Care, looks after dementia sufferers on a daily basis. He knows more than anyone that turning a senior’s predisposition to using the word ‘no’ into a ‘yes’ can be hard work.

Thankfully, his years’ of experience within the industry have taught him a thing or two about how to get around the issue. He’s been kind enough to share three of the main ways he turns a ‘no’ into a ‘yes’ with us, below:


Asking someone with dementia in home care in Potomac MD to do the same thing over and over again is unlikely to get you anywhere.

Instead, a more patient technique is required. For example, if your loved one is refusing to take a shower, ask them whether they would mind you giving them a sponge bath instead. If the answer is still no, start off even smaller. Even getting them to wash their hands can get the ball rolling in the right direction.


By law, bribery may be illegal, but in a caring environment, it can help to save someone’s life.

Even though you may find yourself unwilling to reward a senior for poor behavior, you should try to remember that without an ability to reason, they’re completely unaware of how their behavior is affecting others.

If, for example, you can’t get your loved one to take their medication, offer them a small reward, such as a hug, once they complete the task to try to motivate them. You and you alone should decide on just how much you’re willing to offer for the bribe, but we’d recommend to try and steer clear of using junk food as a prize.


A question that is posed in a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ format will make it easier for a senior to decline your offer.

An alternative is to pose your question so that a senior has to choose one of the options.

For example:
“Would you prefer to eat your lunch now or in twenty minutes?”